One Fish, Two Fish, Red Fish, Blue Fish: What Dr. Seuss Taught Me about Dating


I don’t know what Dr. Seuss taught me about dating but maybe he’s saying not to settle on just one fish right away? I don’t know…I haven’t read that book since I was like 5.

Anyway, I have a date tomorrow, which I’m glad about. However, my ongoing dilemma with dating, and maybe you feel the same, is always wondering if I should be dating multiple guys at once. I tend to want to just focus on one guy at a time, especially if I’m particularly excited about the guy. I feel like a lot of New Yorkers and maybe people in general, are just looking for the next best thing. They always think there could be someone better, so then I feel like they don’t give anyone they’re dating a fair shot.

On the other hand, while I focus on one guy, I wonder if I could be missing out on someone great? Let’s face it, no one I’ve dated recently has resulted in any grand love affairs. So while I focus on one guy, I may have let Mr. Right float on right past me! Finding the right connection some say is all about stats, so maybe I should just be cranking these dates out? Put them in high gear. Break out the conveyor belt!


But then I think about how tired I am. I don’t know! I think most New Yorkers, especially ones who are doing online dating, are probably going on multiple dates per week. I am slacking. I’ve let matches expire and messages go unanswered all because I have a good feeling about my date tomorrow. Where has my “good feeling” ever got me before? I’ll tell you where. It gets me wine, Seamless, & Netflix and Chill all by myself on a Saturday night. That’s where!

What do you think? What have your dating experiences taught you? I’m all ears!

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  1. July 12, 2017 / 8:26 am

    You aren’t the only one who does that. I like to focus on one guy at a time too. It’s natural and it’s normal. That’s actually a good personality trait to have. I wonder if guys do this too?? I mean, I’ve heard that guys ALWAYS have multiple chicks standing on the sidelines…but when it comes down to finding “the one” I wonder if they just focus on one girl, too. Good luck on your date tomorrow. Have some fun, and don’t worry about other potential dates, until that one is over 😉 lol.

    • July 12, 2017 / 9:10 pm

      Thanks so much for your comment and validation! I think you’re right. I just need to do what feels right and what works for me. I don’t have the energy for multiple dates a week anyways. Guys? I don’t know but I do feel like a lot of people date multiple ppl especially if they are doing online dating. And especially if they are in nyc. There’s so many people here so lots of choices especially for men. Apparently there are more single women in this city. Lucky me! 😉

  2. July 20, 2017 / 12:26 am

    I’m married now – when I was single, the best thing I ever learned was that I could be far lonelier with the wrong person than alone 🙂

    • July 20, 2017 / 7:02 pm

      Thank you for that! Yes, I definitely don’t want to settle for the wrong person. I won’t do it.

      • July 20, 2017 / 7:50 pm

        wishing you happiness – whether on your own or in a couple – we must all be happy with our own company 🙂

        • July 21, 2017 / 12:04 am

          Thank you so much! I appreciate it. You are right!
          Thanks for checking out my blog and giving me some great feedback. 🙂

  3. July 25, 2017 / 1:06 am

    wishing you lots of luck and happiness, but I do think there is something to be said for dating one guy at a time …. despite the whole ‘stats’ theory, you’re NEVER going to find that connection if you’re only half-focusing on everyone! I think you’re right, honestly!
    Abby –

    • July 25, 2017 / 7:42 am

      Thank you for stopping by! I think you’re right. I’m just going to continue to date in a way that feels right to me, which is one guy at a time. Finding a connection is so hard and you’re exactly right, I think I would just be half focused if I dated multiple.

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